Am I am the only one that notices how much we all work to
impress others? Those that may or may
not have an important part in our life. We
lose weight, buy high dollar face creams, try to have the nicest house, dress
perfectly, dye our hair, and drive the best car within our means. But Why?
Last week, I talked to 2 different friends that were
frantically cleaning their houses.
Why? Was it for some big
party? Was the president coming over to
visit? No. One was cleaning for her parents to
visit. The other was cleaning before
her husband got home from a trip, but her house was a wreck because she had
been gone 3 weeks with the death of her father all while her husband started a
new job. Why did they feel that their
houses needed to be spotless for those that should love them unconditionally? Was it worth the stress it put on them and
their families? Why did they even care?
This year, we made the decision to change schools for our
kids. It was the hardest decision we
have had to make for my kids. I suffered
from sleepless nights, starting grinding my teeth, was moody and anxious beyond
comprehension all summer. I survived the most stressful first 9 weeks of my life
and I am not even in school. I have a
friend that is homeschooling that feels the same way. While I know it is the right decision for my
children’s future, why do I feel anxiety every time I go to the grocery
store? Why do I get apprehensive every
time someone asks me about their classes?
Why do I feel that I need to please everyone around me? Why do I even care?
I get mad and defensive when I see someone post about
farmers and ranchers even though I know deep down that they are not talking
directly about me. It hurts and I often
lose sleep. I have family that got defensive
and upset when I made a comment about city people and assumed that I was
talking directly about them. It is no
different and I was not. But why do we
even care?
There is only One that we should try to please every
day. I have so many friends that suffer
from anxiety and depression, because they can’t handle the stresses of our fast
paced lifestyle and constant interaction with everyone in person and on
Facebook, Google+, Twitter, Pinterest, YouTube, Instagram, etc. I am sure that you have those friends
suffering as well, you just don’t know it.
I probably could benefit from some sedatives, the Lord knows I have
stress in my life. We have a huge mental
health clinic in our rural area that services so many with mental health issues
that is unbelievable to me. I am very
glad that I have friends that are there to help those willing to admit they
need the help.
How happy would we be if we didn’t care about what other
people think and only think about what God thinks of our actions? How happy would we be if we felt we could
talk openly and honestly with every one without judgment?
Why is it so important to us that everyone approve of our
actions? Why do we feel we need to pass
judgment on our neighbors? Why do we
even care?
I am challenging myself to take a step back and not care
about others opinions this coming year and just make sure I am happy with the
decisions that I make.
-A
Kansas Farm Mom
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