As the school year began again this year, I had to look back
on our summer and the month leading up to summer break. While others were planning their summer
vacations, I was trying to figure out what to do with a diagnosis of Dyslexia,
something we suspected, and a potential diagnosis of ADD, something we did not
see in our own son.
Over the last 2 years, we have went through a change in
schools hoping it would help a bright kid who couldn’t seem to figure out how
to get that intelligence out if he had to read or write. Verbally, he was/is brilliant. I asked numerous times in both schools to
have him tested for Dyslexia only to be told he was too young, they would
inquire with other contracting agencies or to just be ignored.
Luckily, a fellow 4-H mom with a son the same age struggling
with the same issues and dealing with one of the same teachers suggested that
one of the nearby state colleges might be able to help. They both are “teacher colleges” and I
happened to know that our long time babysitter was studying Elementary
Education at Pittsburg State University.
A quick Facebook message to her started a ball rolling that would
dramatically change our summer and one son’s outlook as we start the new school
year.
What most people in the area don’t know is that PittsburgState University has a Dyslexia testing and tutoring program. The program isn’t some high priced thing out
of reach and only for the wealthy. The
testing and tutoring fees are on a sliding scaled for the parent’s income level
and totally on the honor system. They
never asked for anything proving our income.
Our son went through 3 hours of testing.
They started him with a test for ADHD. Why?
Did you know many schools think kids are ADHD because they won’t do
their work and they are actually Dyslexic and can’t read the worksheets given
to them?
He did extensive reading tests including: sounds, nonsense
words, letter recognition, reading sentences and so much more.
The graduate student that administered the test gave him
several short breaks to come out and sit with me while she set up the next
test. Each time he came out you could
tell his brain was getting a real workout.
By the time he finished, he just seemed to stare into space sitting next
to me and his favorite sitter that found the testing facility for us. They really tested him and trying to reach
everything in his little head.
We waited a week and got the results. Let me say this: Knowing your kid has a hard time learning and
hearing someone list off all the things that he can’t do correctly may or may
not be handled with the same amount of grace.
I have a wonderful friend who happens to be ADHD and Dyslexic. She is actually on ADHD medication as an
adult. I messaged her immediately hoping
she could give me a glimmer of hope because at that point in time I was about
to lose all grace that I had in me and it was about to stream down my
cheeks. The Facebook message she sent me
said this,
“Remember the diagnosis doesn't change who he is or who you are.
It's
a huge step in helping understand how
he ticks and helping him learn and grow.”
Oh wow! Did I need to
hear that! She was right. He is still the same kid he has always been
and understanding how his brain works and what it needs to function is going to
help him in the long run. I can honestly
say that hearing that he was seriously delayed in reading was hard to hear from
someone else. I wanted to make all kinds
of excuses for the score he had on the TOVA testing (the ADHD test), but I also
knew that I needed to be proactive.
Over the next week, I will share with you what helped my son
and our entire family. I will cover
resources we found concerning ADHD and how a writing this very blog got me an
invitation to an animal health company’s, called Alltech, conference that would change how we
went about treating the ADHD.
You might find these other articles helpful:
How does one deal with an ADHD diagnosis?
Documenting Change
-A Kansas Farm Mom
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